These words of wisdom by Karen Berg helped me make one of the greatest decisions I have ever made in a long time. The Brian McKnight song comes to mind: it’s that sort of relationship where I was constantly ambivalent between “Do I stay or let it go”?
When you find yourself in a challenging relationship, how do you know if you should walk away or if you need to stay to find out why this relationship is in your life?
One thing you might do is make a list of all of the positive and negative attributes of the other person. Write down all the reasons why you chose him or her to be in your life. Then ask yourself: “When I take into account all of it—the good and the bad—would I feel a void if this person were no longer in my life? Is the challenging aspect of the relationship one that I can change and that I can help to change? Can I help him or her to grow? Can I use the spiritual teachings that have been shared with me to bring this person and this relationship to a better place?” If the answer to all these questions is yes, there is value in the relationship, and you might want to fight for it.
I love that song.