The Reality of Heimlich’s Invention 

We walked through the corridor to his office. He visited Bordeaux. I asked him how his holiday was and he told me other than the attack in Nice that week, he had a grand time. We all love France. But then said in a quick blurt, almost in a bid not let his memory forget this life changing moment he was about to tell me. ‘June, something incredible happened’. Right, ok. What? 

Apparently, he was having lunch in a busy outdoor restaurant when he noticed this man performing the most ‘horrendous’ method of the Heimlich manoeuvre with his hands wrapped on this woman’s upper torso. She had choked on a piece of steak. The man was her husband. No one else had noticed what was going on. He knew that if he didn’t act fast, she may have choked to death. Flight or fright moment?? He runs up to her trying to remain as calm as possible but praying that the manoeuvre works and this woman doesn’t die ‘on him’. The anxieties of a doctor, eh? 

That feeling when you take it upon yourself to walk into a world of unwanted responsibility and daring risks is what makes us human and humane – and it comes with a shit load of bravery and courage that could be frightening especially in such instances. Heimlich and CPR are life changing moments that I wish not to have to administer to anyone. But he told me he also thought about plan B, cutting her throat open as he scanned rapidly for the steak knife to perform actual surgery if all failed. Don’t fret, he is an experienced Doctor, trained all over the world with a whole hell of experience. He went once, twice, thrice and on the fourth go, that piece of steak came flying out. It was indeed quite a poignant moment for him. So I said to him, I had read an article a couple of weeks ago about Henry Heimlich himself who invented this amazing life saving model in 1974, currently widely used not only by clinically trained professionals around the world but also by a global public at large. Before Heimlich invented this model, thousands of people globally choked to death each year. 

The article tells us how Henry himself living in a care home in Cincinnati now in his 90s, had performed his own manoeuvre for the first time ( I will say that again, for the first time!) on a fellow resident. The 87 year old lady had choked on a piece of meat over dinner and struggled to breathe. Heimlich successfully dislodged the piece of meat from her airway.

When asked about how he felt, Heimlich said:

“It was very gratifying,”. “That moment was very important to me. I knew about all the lives my manoveure has saved over the years and I have demonstrated it so many times but here, for the first time, was someone sitting right next to me who was about to die.”

Heimlich had never performed HIS own manoveure until he was 96. It’s fascinating. 

It’s a recommended life skill to learn. He (and Heimlich) saved two women’s lives in the space of 8 weeks. If you ever choke, just indicate the way Heimlich demonstrates it in the blog cover picture and perhaps if someone like me is around you, I or them will definitely know what’s going on and will be ‘forced’ to save you. One  life saved,  means a lot in today’s chaotic world. 

When we were done with our meeting and he gave me what I wanted, I told him as I walked out the door, you are indeed a life saver 🙂 

I love working with doctors – no job on earth can be more gratifying when you are saving lives. 

A simple guide to being or walking 

These words of wisdom by Karen Berg helped me make one of the greatest decisions I have ever made in a long time. The Brian McKnight song comes to mind: it’s that sort of relationship where I was constantly ambivalent between “Do I stay or let it go”? 
When you find yourself in a challenging relationship, how do you know if you should walk away or if you need to stay to find out why this relationship is in your life?

One thing you might do is make a list of all of the positive and negative attributes of the other person. Write down all the reasons why you chose him or her to be in your life. Then ask yourself: “When I take into account all of it—the good and the bad—would I feel a void if this person were no longer in my life? Is the challenging aspect of the relationship one that I can change and that I can help to change? Can I help him or her to grow? Can I use the spiritual teachings that have been shared with me to bring this person and this relationship to a better place?” If the answer to all these questions is yes, there is value in the relationship, and you might want to fight for it.

I love that song. 

‘My’earth’s finest; because it’s the simple things

Hot showers 
Beach walks
Foreplay
Art
Avocado (& a dash of salt)
Sleep
Theo Walcott
Bread & butter 
Massages 
Pictures 
Laughter 
Travel 
American breakfast 
American breakfast 
American breakfast
Love
Cute Toddlers 
My nephew and niece 
My god kids 
Pure double malt whisky 
Flowers 
Poetry
Gifts 
Window seats 
Rice dishes 
Anything Shabby chic, even humans 
Gospel music 
Flea markets 
Cream and beige
Rain on dust
Technology 
Boho Dresses
Cappuccino and croissants 
Staying at home 
Walks / hiking 
Perfumes 
Flight miles!!!
My I products (Apple)
Tea and cake 
Scented candles 
Seaside views
British posh accents
Steam rooms
Foreign movies 
Galleries 
Anything floral 
Yoga and meditation 
Sea front homes 
Erykah Badu
European fashion 
Picnics in the park/farm 
Carolyn Malachi
Swearing 
Fuck!
Parma ham salad 
Lucy Mangan
Smiles 
Kisses 
Jazz nights 
Magnum (Almonds)
Red Rioja 
My friend, Ijay
Aromatherapy 
TV and my couch
Country escape 
Nature and quiet 
Sleep
Cuddles 
Lavender 
Magazines 
Lena Dunham
Mad Men (TV) 
Fresh laundry 
Living 
…Are all the things in life that make my days better.
#knowthyself